By George Josserme
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When a man and a woman unite their lives, they have the expectations of any newly-wed couple; and that is to remain in Love holding hands with each other to go through life’s contentions and conflicts as well as the greatest moments life has to offer. Those who are not so newly-wed also hope to remain in Love as they were the first day.
However, when expressing and showing a beloved spouse such exalting and dignifying feeling is when one may engage in the Celebration of Love. It is not words, presents, or kisses that celebrate Love. It is demonstration, confirmation, and affirmation that one is in love and feels the urge to find ways to express such exalting and dignifying feeling.
A mother once said to her son...
"Whenever someone tells you I LOVE YOU,
in silence and to yourself, you say... SHOW ME."
There is one couple of not so newly-weds.
Both of them did their part to... SHOW ME.
The husband took half day off at work, and surprising his wife, he called to say that he is on his way home to pick her up and to take her to a nearby lake. She was thrilled by her devoted husband’s action, and ready to go in no time. When he arrived, both felt like high school kids laughing, rejoicing, and in love with each other going to a field-trip.
On their way to the lake, he made a stop leaving his car’s engine running. Once again surprised, she was wondering where he was going. In one minute or so, he came back, and through the passenger’s side window, he stretched his hand holding a red rose. He told his wife that he will walk to the moon if that is what it takes to find her again, and that she is all he will ever need in life.
In his early teen years, this man discovered that certain classical music has powers to cuddle his senses. That day, and under the shade of a big oak tree, he brought his wife to a world that he finds enchanting, absorbing, and captivating. Using his music player, he delicately brushed his wife’s skin with all tips of his fingers mimicking a piano playing Chopin’s Nocturne.
The sun was setting in the still warm evening hours of the day when such a surprisingly delightful time they both spent by the lake's shore was approaching the end. This man, however, revealed to his wife that he had another surprise for her.
He took her to a French Bistro where the environment was quite, private, background music could not have been more appropriately chosen, and the food could bring anyone senses to a high point. After enjoying every bite of such food, and right before dessert was served, he took her to dance; but before the end of their first romantic dance, he discreetly kissed her so as for her to not feel embarrassed if anyone was watching.
This husband’s actions and his affections have once again overwhelmingly showed and vastly reassured his wife how far his love for her can go.
Once at home, privacy and that day’s wonderful Celebration of Love lead to a physical encounter. The loving husband's sense and sensibility did not precipitate matters nor promoted an act that his wife may not be ready for. Instead, he honored such moment.
This man is one of few who envisions his wife as the one who ~in allegorical meaning~ at the end of a Celebration of Love decides when to open a door that finds on the other side the physical encounter that makes one man and one woman become one flesh.
They didn't do it. They didn't have it. They didn't indulge themselves in a commodity.
At the end of that evening ~like some of the times they celebrate Love~ they received what men and women may when they cloth themselves with a perfect bond: Love. That bond may receive a sacred gift awarded "only" at the end of the Celebration of Love.
Time went by, and this man and
his wife did more to... "SHOW ME"
It was for this husband a busy, aggravating, and obfuscating day at work. The drive back home by the lake did not bring up memories of the superb times that he and his wife spent in harmony. Those were the days when they demonstrated, confirmed, and affirmed such feeling which carried great weight in building the foundation of their lives.
He wanted to get home hoping that his wife would help him relax his state of mind as he rests for awhile. Instead, he found a loud wife disclosing an unwelcome situation that developed with their bank, that some bills require his attention, and that a friend is organizing a party but she does want to get involved.
He expressed to his wife that ~as a result of a hard day at work~ he is exhausted. She responded that he is not welcome to bring home problems he should tackle and fully resolve at work, and that his work and work-related preoccupations are part of his life none of which are part of hers.
Possibly reaching a threshold he couldn't prevent himself from crossing, he found a way to deal with all of it. He approached his wife, and not showing affection but aggressive desire, he undressed her and had sex with her.
Possibly, the wife was in disagreement with her husband's loveless reaction. Probably, she saw in a flash her relationship being built on a solid foundation of Love and sacred gifts they were granted at the end of their once well-conceived Celebration of Love; but reality was showing her that it all deprecated to the point that it has fallen to pieces.
According to a very famous author "...there remains Faith, Hope, Love, these three;
but the greatest of these is Love." One another not less famous author regarded
Love so favorably that he wrote "...because Love covers a multitude of sins."
Yet another shook many writing "...but if I have no Love, I am nothing."
Will it be possible that an otherwise fine man and once devoted husband
willing to surprise his wife with unexpected trips to lakes, roses, and
French Bistros to express, demonstrate, and confirm his feelings
has come to ignore 1 Corinthians 13:13 and chose to become
part of a system of things likely to condemn and denigrate
what has once been regarded as the greatest feeling ?
Will it be possible that the wife that once was like an excited in love
high school kid rushing to a field trip elected to be unconcerned with
her husband’s needs, became superficial and trivial, and decided to
bring Proverbs 25:24 to her once genuine and thriving relationship ?
Discuss it, Ladies and Gentlemen. Discuss it.
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