By George Josserme
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Any newly-wed couple has all the expectations of most every man and woman who unite their lives in Love holding hands with each other to go through life’s contentions and conflicts as well as the greatest moments that life has to offer. Those who are not so newly-wed also hope to remain in Love ~as they were the first day~ holding hands to go through life together. Love is the perfect bond that unites, and makes one man and one woman to become one flesh.
However, when expressing a beloved spouse such exalting and dignifying feeling is when one may engage in the Celebration of Love. It is not just words or presents or kisses that celebrate Love. It is demonstration, confirmation, and affirmation that one feels love, that one is in love, and that one cares enough to express such exalting and dignifying feeling again and again.
A mother once said to her son...
"When someone ever tells you I LOVE YOU,
in silence and to yourself, you say... SHOW ME."
Later in his life, the son found his mother’s principle in 1 John 3:18
"...let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and truth."
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There is one couple of not so newly-weds.
Both of them did their part to... SHOW ME.
The husband took half day off at work, but he did not tell his wife what he has been planning. Surprising her, he called to say that he is on his way home to pick her up, and to take her to a nearby, small lake until late afternoon hours. She was thrilled by her devoted husband’s action, and ready to go in no time. When he arrived, they both felt like excited high school kids laughing, rejoicing, and in love with each other going to a field trip.
On their way to the lake, he momentarily made a stop leaving his car’s engine running. Again surprised, the wife was wondering where he was going. In just a minute or so, he came back. Through the passenger’s side window, he stretched his hand out holding a beautiful red rose. He told his wife that he will walk to the moon if that is what it would take to find her again, that she is all he will ever need in his life, and how lucky he was the day she said "Yes."
In his early teen years, this husband was beginning to discover that certain pieces of classical music have powers to cuddle his senses and transport him to another world. That day at the lake, and under the ample shade of a big oak tree, he decided to bring his wife to a world that he finds enchanting, absorbing, and captivating. Using his music player, he delicately brushed his wife’s skin with the tips of his fingers mimicking a solo piano playing Chopin’s Nocturne.
The sun was setting its light in the still warm evening hours of the day when refreshing, surprising, and delightful day they both spent by the lake was approaching the end; or so the wife thought. Her husband unveiled to her that he had another surprise for her.
He took her to a French Bistro where the environment was quite, private, background music could not have been more appropriately chosen, and the food could bring anyone senses to a high point. After enjoying every bite of such food, and right before dessert was served, he took her to dance; but before the end of the first romantic song, he discreetly and delicately kissed her. He did not want her to feel embarrassed if anyone was watching.
This husband’s actions and his affections have once again overwhelmingly showed and vastly reassured his wife how far his far-reaching love for her can go.
Once at home, privacy and that day’s wonderful Celebration of Love lead to a physical encounter. The loving husband's sense and sensibility did not precipitate matters nor promoted an act that his wife may not be ready for. Instead, he honored the moment evidencing feelings for his wife in ways that emerge from the inside out.
This young man is one of the few who still carries convictions that lead him to envision his wife as the one who ~in allegorical meaning~ at the end of the Celebration of Love determines when and if to open that door that finds on the other side the physical encounter that makes one man and one woman become one flesh.
They didn't do it. They didn't have it. They didn't indulge themselves. At the end of that evening ~like some of the times they venerate Love in such a manner~ they received what men and women may when they cloth themselves with a perfect bond: Love. That bond may receive a sacred gift awarded "only" at the end of the Celebration of Love.
Time went by, and this husband and
his wife did more to... "SHOW ME"
It was for this husband a busy, aggravating, and obfuscating day at work. Even driving back home by the peaceful lake did not bring up memories of the wonderful and superb times that he and his wife spent together in harmony. Those were the days when Trust and Love ~and how they demonstrated, confirmed, and affirmed each one of them~ carried great weight in building the foundation of their lives.
All he wanted was to get home and to relax. He was hoping that his wife would help him reach a free from strife state of mind as he rests for some time with his eyes closed. Instead, he found a wife exposing him to an unwelcome situation that developed with their bank, that some of their bills require his attention, and that a friend decided to organize a party but she does want to get involved.
He expressed to his wife his state if mind as a result of complicated day at work. She responded that he is not welcome to bring home problems he should tackle and fully resolve at work, and that his work and work-related preoccupations are part of his life none of which is related to her.
Possibly reaching a threshold he couldn't prevent himself from crossing, he found a way to deal with all of it in one action. He approached his wife, and not showing affection and loving affinity but an aggressive desire, he undressed her and had sex with her.
In her perception of such moment, the woman possibly was not in agreement with her husband’s not-so-romantic and loveless reaction. Probably, deep in her inner self, there was an image of her own relationship built on a foundation of genuine Love and Trust deprecated, diminished, and weakened to the point that it has all fallen to pieces. Most likely, neither the husband nor the wife could remember the sacred moments they were granted at the end of their once well-conceived Celebration of Love.
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According to a very famous author "...there remains Faith, Hope, Love, these three;
but the greatest of these is Love." One another not less famous author regarded
Love so favorably that he wrote "...because Love covers a multitude of sins."
Yet another shook many writing "...but if I have no Love, I am nothing."
Will it be possible that an otherwise fine man and once devoted husband
willing to surprise his wife with unexpected trips to lakes, roses, and
French Bistros to express, demonstrate, and confirm his feelings
has come to ignore 1 Corinthians 13:13 and chose to become
part of a system of things likely to condemn and denigrate
what has once been regarded as the greatest feeling ?
Will it be possible that the wife that once was like an excited in love
high school kid rushing to a field trip elected to be unconcerned with
her husband’s needs, became superficial and trivial, and decided to
bring Proverbs 25:24 to her once genuine and thriving relationship ?
Discuss it, Ladies and Gentlemen. Discuss it.
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