THERE was once a mother conversing with her son ~who was in his early teen years~ about how do we find love. She told him... "when someone tells you 'i love you,' in silence and to yourself, you say 'show me.'" That mother's wise advice to her son early in his life unveils clearly that we should "show them" before you and I can rightfully expect to learn "Where and how do I find love."
How you and I do find love depends on whether or not we both have kept during our formative years reasonably intact the core high qualities to do what is proper, and that is to express throughout our lives good feelings of our heart to others including animals.
...but how do I find love? It will unquestionably come to you and I out of the abundance of your heart and mine. It will decisively arrive in the life of a good man [or woman] who out of his good treasure he sends out good things to others. It will be embedded in our lives according to the cleanliness of our brotherly affection, tender compassion as well as the honesty of acts of love that we offer others including animals.
What you just read means that it is not realistic that you and I can find love in exchange for nothing. It is vastly realistic that you and I can find love if we ~without a vestige of pretense~ give well before we ask. Let's remember that to give or to find love does not exclusively apply to people of the opposite sex, but to everyone and everyday.
Pay attention to what comes next.
There is someone out there making a note for every act of ours. He can see the intents of our hearts. He can read what is in our minds. He can perceive how clean and honest our intents, acts of love, affection, and compassion are when we "show them," and how good we do away with enmities, hostility, fits of anger, contentions and ill intentions, resentfulness and bitterness, deceitfulness, insincerity, falseness, hypocrisy, envying one another, jealously, backbiting, hollowness, drunken bouts, and badness emerging from a fruitless conduct likely acquired during the formative years.
After all, would you allow anyone doing any of the above to find something as precious as love simply because he has a desire to know "How do I find love ?"
Should we both offer others what is good in His eyes ~and NOT what is good in yours or mine~ in due time He will give what He considers necessary according to our deeds of love; and He will do so to everyone rightfully wondering "How and where do I find love."
because he that sows with a view to things of the flesh
will reap corruption leading to death, but he that sows
with a view to love will reap everlasting life.
-- galatians 6:8
there remains faith, hope, love, these three;
but the greatest of the three is love.
-- 1 corinthians 13:13
